the first one or the last one?

kurcaci disini refers to gw and 2 friends of mine!!
today gw hang out barengan mereka...
dan everytime gw ngumpul ama mereka, there would be lots of stupid things we had!!
like today for example, udah lama ga ketemu kIbo (salah satu kurcaci) akhirnya ketemu juga dan tetep hal gila pun mengelilingi kami!!
mungkin dengan ukuran waktu yg kami bina dalam sebuah persahabatn cukup lama, jadi hal2 yg "tabu" pun uda jadi common dan uncovered yet!!!
sebenarnya dalam pandangan gw, previously gw uda ngebahas ttg arti persahabatan, sahabt itu sesuatu yang benar2 undercover dari segala hal, at least dalam beberapa hal gw n temen2 gw uda tau lah gimana taste and karakter masing2.
saling melengkapi adalah satu ukuran yg paling pas dalam sebuah persahabatn. ngertiin temen yg "gila", "aneh", dll (ttp pake tanda kurung), adalah hal yg paling pas. mungkin kita pernah ngerasa benci ato marah ama teman ketika dy uda ga jelas keberadaannya, lebih milih pacarnya lah, sibuk kuliah lah, mungkin yg ada di kepala adalah sebuah judgement yg terlintas klu dy sombong dan ga peduli lagi ama sahabat2nya, its normal though! tapi terkadang gw sendiri mikir "kenapa sebuah slogan sombong itu ditempelkan ama sahabt yg terkesan sombong?padahal itu cuma sebuah temporary feeling yang shows up ketika kita ngerasa jauh ama sahabt!"
ada beberpa alasan kenapa kita ngerasa jauh ama sahabat baek kita:
1. sahabt terlalu sibuk dgn kuliah.
2. sahabt pacaran mulu.
3. sahabt temenan ama org laen.
4. sahabt kita punya kerjaan yg ruwet dan banyak!
mungkin kita bakal langsung mikir "its time to find a new best friend!!)
yah ga salah juga sih klu kita mikir kyk gt, tp ada beberap explanation of it.
kita ga bisa maksa seoarang sahabt untuk :
1. mengutamakan kita daripada kuliahnya.
2. menyayangi kita lebih dari pacarnya.
3. mendewakan kita dihadapn teman barunya.
4. menomorduakan kerjaan ketimbang kita.
itu semua ada alasan yg cukup kuat kenapa seseorang bisa dianggap sebagai sahabat sejati.
smua hal itu harus ada scale of priority, there is a moment for us being the first one, but also there will be a moment for us being the last one.

jadi the point of it is mutual understanding!
sama-sama ngertiin ttg keadaan sahabat kita.....

yes i know why men are from mars and women from venus

perhaps that tagline has come over me this moment..

ketika gw lagi ngerasa down bgt (like today, for instance) dia selalu ngebuat gw ngerasa ngerti being man is not necessarily strong enough..mungkin para cowok (yes we are!!) ngerasa menjadi org yg kuat and tough adalah sebuah tradisi lama yang masih exist and still valuable untilo now.

klau gw sedikit mengikis pendapat itu mungkin lots of guys would yelling at me by saying "what a chezzy boy!!"

tapi gw ga akan involve dgn apa yg mereka blng (sorry guys i have to be honest with our weakness, though it sounds that i would embarassing my self!)tapi the truth is ketika lo ngerasa pgn nangis dgn semua masalah on ur shoulder n u need someone who can cought you on her shoulder, JUST LAY ON IT!!no need to be strong enough and pretending that u are okay!!!

some guys would liked to keep their commitment by not showing up their weakness in front of their couple (is it right?lol), yah u can go for it!!!

tapi ketika lo uda ngebuka hati lo kepada satu hati(jijik gw dgn pilihan bahasanya!!!)it means that u are ready enough to share everything (everything here refers to Feeling, no physical attractive involved,LOL)

jadi yah uda sebuah konsekuensi buat lo untuk bisa tidak berpura2 terhadap perasaan lo even lo harus nangis didepan pacar lo its okay dude!!!jangan takut dibilang cengeng (is there another word for this??), justru ketika lo "berhasil" nangis didepan pacar lo, artinya lo uda nemuin someone who you can share with....

intinya adalah jangan pernah ngerasa KUat ketika lo ngerasa LEMah...just be ur self..

life would be a mistake if you are not ready to be honest to ur self...halllllahh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

respect plis!!!

Gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!anjrit!!!
pernah ga sih ngalamin sebuah keadaan dimana lo uda berbuat baek n sacrificing many things and then u are treated like a trash or like shit!!
gw selalu berusaha baek dgn semua org tp kenapa kebaikan itu ga pernah dibalas, though i dont want it but at least give me sign that respectful!!!!!!!

me VS the small house in the past.

nov 15th 2007..
yesterday my mom asking me to guide her going to our old house in a really postponed area, and for sure a place im grown up..let say my childhood memories is hang on there..
i saw my small room was empty and smells cold and unhandle well from the last family who was rented our house..
when i tried to remember about how long i have not visited that place, it goes to the numbers of 13years!!!Gosh its almost 13 years i have never visits that place...
too much bad memories there, for me. i have no reassons to visit that place, just a sceptical feeling i guess... but when i entering the main room, quite big, it used to be my room (incl, my two brothers) because its a big room so my parents just divide it into two rooms just seperating by a tiny wood!!(gosh!!!!!)
my memories going bad when i saw some spot in the house where all my unhappy moment was locked!!!!!!!
well too much things are happen in that small house....
i realize that me myself now are created at least by those memories inside that house.......

what is the meaning of friendship??

last week, gw berdebat ama temen gw sendiri ttg apa sebenarnya arti dari sahabat sejati??
well the conversation is going hot,,friend of mine told me that a true friendship is a chemistry about one to another even they are seperated and disappear without no buzz or teling anything, the point goes to the note that " even ur friend away from you and you have no idea where are they, but you can still having a feeling about them wheter he/she has no where out there, we can feel the chemistry"
but my point goes n notes about friend should confirm about condition of our friends, so added that "friends should not be the last person knowing about ur friend has been away without telling anything"

jadi perdebatan yang ada menjadi pemikiran gw ttg apa sebenarnya arti persahabatan??
apakah sahabat sejati itu adalah sebuah hubungan yg tetap dirasa walau sahabat kita jauh tp kita ga pernah tau apakah dy ADA ato GAK!!
atau justru sahabat sejati itu adalah sebuah hubungan yang harus tetap up to date dan ttp keep in touch sehingga kita tau ttg keadaan sahabat kita.....
huhhhhhhhhhh..

its a begginig parking...

first time of this time, many things must be deliver on the spot!!!!
celebrating my first blog, gw cuma pgn ngasih tau ttg diri gw in a short way...nama gw herry wahyudi, just a simple boy with little tummy(lol)...
im 23 years old....landing on a shoulder of a girl named Tia is a good choice for me today!
some things that surround me this week, such as celebrating forth month with my girl, and celebrating my girl's birthday....
btw, klu ngomongin beberapa kejadian mgu ini, bisa ngebuat gw ngerasa pgn yelling karena kemaren gw ketipu ama salah satu agency(sounds gmn gt!!!) but there are several things that made me lil bit happy, such as my cousin finally merried!!!!!GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and, on saturday one of my friends Nico has return to JAkarta (action!!!!) ...that were couple things that happen to me this week....gw harus buru2 nih...VOICE OVER Sob....